Sex education has always evoked two responses: yawns from boredÂ students, or cringes when the conversation gets awkward. But sex ed isÂ important, especially in a 21st century where people are still confusedÂ about what consent means. Blogger Emmaline May gave the world aÂ collective â€œah-hahâ€ moment when she said it best: â€œJust imagine instead ofÂ initiating sex, youâ€™re making them a cup of tea. BY RAEESA PATHER
What do sexual consent and tea have in common? At first thought nothing, untilÂ Mayâ€™s blog went viral and showed everyone just how simple understandingÂ consent could really be.
â€œYou say â€˜hey, would you like a cup of tea?â€™ and they go â€˜omg fuck yes, I wouldÂ fucking LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!â€™ then you know they want a cup of tea,â€Â May writes in her blog.
She goes on to say that if your guest wanted tea, but then fell unconscious, you shouldnâ€™t be pouring tea down their throat while theyâ€™re passed out. Thatâ€™sÂ obvious, right? But somehow, this same level of clarity that can so easily beÂ applied to tea, is muddled when it comes to sexual consent.
May collaborated with Blue Seat Studios to create a video inspired by her blog.Â For teachers who want to show the video in class, thereâ€™s also a clean version,Â without the swear words.
With universities in the US adopting an affirmative consent policyÂ that emphasises yes means yes, and verbalÂ consent must be given in sexual encounters on campus, the video couldnâ€™t comeÂ at a better time, especially when sexual assault is rife (55 colleges in the USÂ wereÂ investigated for their handling of sexual-harassment complaints in 2014).
In the words of May: â€œWhether itâ€™s tea or sex, consent is everything.â€