Choosing to love someone who is white can be difficult. You have to deal with the comments you get from other people of colour trying to police your personal life. Some of it is because of the labour you have to do with the person you love.
With the holidays coming up you also have to deal with families of your white significant other. It may not get Get Out crazy, but it may get hard so we have a few tips to get you through it.
1. Expect the best, plan for the worst
Keeping an open mind is important. When itâ€
2. Memorise a few clap-backs
Whiteness is steeped in many problems, it is the baseless attitude that white people believe they are better than you, that you will be left out on activities by some members of your partnerâ€
3. Take a walk
Suzan may be the sweetest most well meaning person but her blatant ignorance might be a lot to handle. Take a walk alone on the beach or down the road, but at the very least separate yourself from the situation (whiteness) every now and then. Call your mom or your bestie to be reminded that it isnâ€
. Remember your self care
Not every fight is worth it. Sometimes it may be good night to fight them because people donâ€
5. Know why you’re going
It is good to know why you are going to be there and if you are completely okay with your decision. It is nice to enjoy the luxuries of dating a white person but it can be taxing too. Because whiteness doesnâ€